Are You Ignoring the Signs of Perimenopause? Here’s Why That’s Costing You

It started with sleep.

Or rather... the lack of it.

I’d wake up at 3 a.m., heart pounding, busting to go to the toliet.
Some nights, I couldn’t fall asleep at all.
Other nights, I was so restless I felt like crawling out of my skin.

I thought I was just overwhelmed.
Too much work.
Too much noise.
Too much... everything.

But then came the mood swings.
Snapping at my husband.
Crying in the car.
Feeling low for no reason at all.

That’s when I knew this wasn’t just stress.
This was something else.

I realised I wasn’t just “tired and emotional” - I was deep in the messy middle of perimenopause. And no one had warned me how intense it could be.

If you're wondering whether what you're feeling is "normal"... it is. But it’s also a wake-up call.

In this blog, we’ll unpack the emotional, physical, and relational toll of dismissing perimenopause symptoms - and what you can do right now to start feeling like yourself again.

The Emotional Toll

Emotional? I was a mess!

Perimenopause isn't just about physical changes; it profoundly impacts our emotional landscape. Many women report feeling anxious, irritable, or even depressed during this phase. Dismissing these feelings as mere mood swings or bad days means missing the opportunity to address underlying hormonal imbalances.

Research indicates that women are 2–4 times more likely to experience depression during perimenopause compared to premenopausal years. Hormonal fluctuations, particularly the decline in estrogen, can disrupt neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine, affecting mood regulation.

Impact on Physical Health

My cycle changed.

My weight shifted - especially around my belly.

Sleep became a nightly battle.

Ignoring symptoms like irregular periods, weight gain, or fatigue might seem inconsequential initially. But over time, these issues can compound. Hormonal imbalances during perimenopause can lead to serious conditions like osteoporosis, cardiovascular disease, and type 2 diabetes.

Estrogen plays a vital role in maintaining bone density. Its decline during perimenopause increases the risk of osteoporosis, making bones more susceptible to fractures. Additionally, estrogen has a protective effect on the cardiovascular system. As levels drop, the risk of heart disease escalates. 

Strain on Relationships

And it didn’t just affect me

Disconnected from my husband.

Too tired to show up at work the way I used to.

I was short-tempered with my kids.

Perimenopause doesn't just affect you - it impacts those around you. Mood swings, irritability, and fatigue can strain relationships with partners, children, and colleagues. Unexplained emotional reactions may lead to misunderstandings, creating a ripple effect in your personal and professional life.

Open communication is essential. Sharing your experiences can foster understanding and support, easing the relational tensions that perimenopause may bring.

The Danger of Dismissing Perimenopause Symptoms

Just a phase.

It would pass.

I ignored it for too long.

I told myself it was fine.

But the longer I pretended not to notice, the worse I felt.

Recognising Common Perimenopause Symptoms

Perimenopause manifests differently for each woman, but common symptoms include:

• Irregular periods: Cycles may become shorter, longer, heavier, or lighter.

• Hot flashes and night sweats: Sudden feelings of heat, often disrupting sleep.

• Mood swings: Increased irritability, anxiety, or depression.

• Sleep disturbances: Difficulty falling or staying asleep.

• Fatigue: Persistent tiredness not alleviated by rest.

• Weight gain: Particularly around the abdomen.

• Brain fog: Difficulty concentrating or remembering.

• Decreased libido: Reduced sexual desire.

• Joint aches: Stiffness or pain in joints.

Recognizing these symptoms is the first step toward managing them effectively.

Taking Control: Strategies for Navigating Perimenopause

1. Track Your Symptoms

I Tracked Everything

Mood, energy, sleep, cycle, cravings.

Patterns started to emerge.

I started writing it all down.

Keeping a journal can help identify patterns and triggers. Note physical symptoms, emotional changes, and lifestyle factors like diet, exercise, and sleep. This information is invaluable when consulting healthcare providers.

2. Seek Professional Guidance

Consulting a healthcare provider is crucial. They can offer personalised advice, conduct necessary tests, and discuss treatment options like hormone replacement therapy (HRT) or alternative remedies. Early intervention can mitigate long-term health risks.

3. Nourish Your Body

I Changed the Way I Eat

I added:

• More leafy greens (calcium + magnesium)

• Flaxseeds (for natural hormone support)

• Protein and healthy fats with every meal

I cut back on the sugar, wine, and coffee that were messing with my blood sugar and mood.

A balanced diet rich in whole foods supports hormonal health. Incorporate:

• Flaxseeds: Contain phytoestrogens that may balance hormones.

• Leafy greens: High in calcium and magnesium for bone health.

• Healthy fats: Avocados, nuts, and olive oil support overall well-being.

Limiting processed foods, caffeine, and alcohol can also alleviate symptoms.

4. Prioritise Self-Care

I Moved, But Gently

I walked. I stretched. I lifted light weights.

I rested. A lot.

Gone were the intense HIIT workouts that left me wrecked.

Regular exercise, mindfulness practices, and adequate sleep are vital. Activities like yoga, meditation, and walking can reduce stress and improve mood. Aim for at least 150 minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic exercise weekly. 

5. Connect with Others

I Talked About It

It helped.

Just saying the word perimenopause out loud helped.

With my husband. My friends. Even online.

Sharing experiences with friends or support groups can provide comfort and practical advice. Knowing you're not alone in this journey can be empowering.

Embracing the Journey

Perimenopause is a natural phase of life, not a medical condition to be feared. By acknowledging and addressing its symptoms, you can navigate this transition with grace and resilience.

Remember, your health and well-being are paramount. Taking proactive steps now sets the foundation for a vibrant, fulfilling life ahead.

Want Support Without the Overwhelm?

One question a day.
One gentle pause.
One powerful reconnection with yourself.

I've created the "365 Questions Journal"- a daily companion designed to help you reflect, understand, and embrace the changes you're experiencing. Each prompt encourages self-discovery and mindfulness, fostering a deeper connection with yourself during this transformative time.

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Note: This blog post is for informational purposes only and does not substitute professional medical advice. Always consult with a healthcare provider for personalized guidance.