How to Stop Living on Autopilot During Perimenopause and Start Listening to Your Body

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Let me ask you something.

Why did you click on this blog?
Was it curiosity? Was it the hope that maybe, finally, you’ll find a way to feel more in control of your body during perimenopause?
Or maybe you’ve been following Midlife Flow and know I don’t sugarcoat things - I share tools that actually help.

Whatever brought you here, I’m glad it did.
Because if you’re reading this, chances are... you’ve been running on autopilot.

Not the energised, flowy kind.
The kind where you’re just trying to make it through the day. You’re ticking off to-do lists, pushing through fatigue, snapping at the people you love - and wondering if it’s just you.

Spoiler alert: it’s not just you.
You’re in perimenopause. And no one taught you how to live through it - not just survive it.

So that’s what this blog is about.
It’s an invitation to press pause, get back in your body, and create a new philosophy for how you move through this season.

Step 1: Listen to Your Body (It’s Been Talking to You All Along)

Most of us were raised to disconnect from our bodies. Push through. Suck it up. Take a Panadol. Get on with it.

But in perimenopause, that doesn’t work anymore.
The symptoms get louder. The fatigue turns bone-deep. The mood swings don’t just pass. And suddenly, the body we’ve ignored for years is demanding to be heard.

And here’s the thing most doctors don’t say:
Your symptoms are not random.
They’re messages. Your body’s language. And if you can learn to listen instead of fight it, you start to notice patterns.

• Anxiety before your period? That might be blood sugar dysregulation or low progesterone.

• Crashing mid-afternoon? That could be adrenal fatigue.

• Snapping at your partner for breathing too loudly? (Been there.) It’s not just mood—it could be inflammation, lack of sleep, or hormonal dips.

When we slow down and get curious, we start to decode the signals.

So here’s your first small shift:

✨ Pause once a day. Ask: “What is my body trying to tell me right now?”
Not from a place of blame - but with compassion.

Because your body?
She’s not the enemy. She’s the guide.

Step 2: Let Go of Control (Yep, I Said It)

One of the hardest parts of perimenopause is feeling like you’ve lost control.

Your sleep? Gone.
Your patience? Thin.
Your waistline? Replaced by a bloated stranger.
And in that panic, we try to tighten our grip. Control everything. Perfect the diet. Schedule the supplements. Force our way through.

But here’s the truth no one likes to admit:

🤍 Healing doesn’t happen through force. It happens through flow.

Perimenopause is a season of surrender.
Not passive giving-up. But active letting-go. Trusting your body again.

What does that look like?

• Resting when you’re tired (without guilt)

• Saying no without explanation

• Eating to nourish, not restrict

• Moving your body with kindness, not punishment

• Feeling emotions without numbing them

Letting go of control creates space—and in that space, your nervous system calms. Your hormones respond. Your sleep improves. And life feels… softer.

You don’t need to hustle your way through this.
You need to allow.

Step 3: Create a Life Philosophy That Supports You (Not Who You Used to Be)

This is where it gets juicy.

Because once you’re listening to your body, and you’ve let go of the exhausting need to control everything… you get to ask:

How do I actually want to live through this next chapter?

This is your chance to write a new philosophy—one that supports your real needs, rhythms, and values. Not society’s version. Not your 20s version. Yours.

Ask yourself:

• What do I value most right now? Peace? Simplicity? Creativity?

• What drains me? What nourishes me?

• What does my body need more of? What does it need less of?

• What boundaries do I need to feel safe and centred?

And be honest:
Are your current habits aligned with those answers?

If not, it’s okay. This isn’t about shame—it’s about course-correcting with love.

Write down your own guiding philosophy for perimenopause.
It could be simple like:

“I choose rest over hustle.”
“I nourish my hormones with food and rituals.”
“I trust my body to lead.”

This becomes your inner compass.
When symptoms flare or life gets loud again, come back to these words.

Your Body Already Has the Answers

Let me be real with you - this journey isn’t linear.
Some days you’ll feel strong and connected.
Other days, you’ll want to hide in the pantry with a block of dark chocolate (been there too).

But you’re not alone.
And the more you live in partnership with your body—not against her—the easier it becomes.

This isn’t about fixing yourself.
It’s about coming home to yourself.

What to Do Next (If You’re Ready to Go Deeper)

If this blog resonated, here’s how I can support you further:

1. Dive deeper into nutrition for perimenopause – Grab my free guide to biohack perimenopause through hormone-balancing foods and start feeling better today. [Download Now]

2. Check out my YouTube channel – For holistic tips, real-life advice, and supportive community for navigating perimenopause. [Subscribe here]